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Happy Independence Day Nigeria!

Happy Independence day Nigeria.

Today we are 55 years  and we look forward to a new start and fresh beginnings. You know for the first time in my life I saw a natural rose flower growing on the soil. I inhaled its’ fragrance and I was surprised to notice that it smelt like any other flower. I studied its’ greens leaves and it’s thorns. It was really lovely and I was glad I spotted the rose flower. It reminded me so much of Nigeria. We are a beautiful Nation just like the rose flower. Our talent and intelligence is deep just as the rose is deep red. But our problems are like that of the thorns that surrounds the rose.

It therefore takes insight to see the potentials that we have as a Nation, if only we all agree to work together for a better Nigeria.

Let us all ponder on this. Shall we?

And there we were at the Church…

Today’s message is all about love. When I was hungry you gave me to eat. When I was thirsty you gave me to drink. I just recently read a message from his Holiness Pop Francis. And I couldn’t help but have mixed feelings. However upon ripping myself of my religious emotions, I saw great meaning in his words. He said ” The notion of God is outdated” Yea!sounded weird right?

Keep on reading… and you get uneasy…

Although I am yet to ascertain the veracity of the statement… but what remains apt is the last sentence where he said ” so many  people have done lots of evil in the name of the church”.

And there we were in church on Sunday.  Most of us are shells, because our minds wander away …. to a different place. However, the satisfaction that we were in church on Sunday is what keeps us going. We step out with a satisfied smile but our souls are hungry , thirsty looking for the word of God.

Then there is that group of people who sees going to church as obligatory and not necessarily the essence of fellow shipping with others. There are the other group of people who are in church to keep up appearances that they are Christians.

Christianity is in the heart and in the soul, it is  in our acts of love and kindness and not in church going. For there we were on Sunday in the church yet we are not in sync with God’s words.

Let us mediate on it.

 

Cheers!

 

The Morning After

 

 

The dance of death felt more real than the feeling of regret. The mistake has been made and now one must live with the consequences. How can one deal with the consequences of regret. Can a person erase the memory and consequences of a deed that could have been easily avoided. I call it the morning after, because the act happens whilst the person is not fully awake to examine the consequences and realities of a decision. Imagine a woman marrying a wrong partner and vice versa with a man. In this era, one would say divorce can rectify the mistake but what of the scars, the memory. the bitterness the hatred that has been created.

 

Hi, I am back and I hope to keep it so, my only regret is that I have not been able to actively write posts to thrill and keep my readers alive. A lot of experiences to share on how to keep your relationships alive and active in order to avoid the morning after…

The Jealous Nature of Men

 

 

Have you ever wondered why a man would marry two or three wives or have 700 concubines and 300 hundred wives like King Solomon, but yet get so jealous when one of those wives have an extra marital affair. Yes, such is the jealous nature of men so much so that some have killed or disfigured their lovers all in the name of unsubstantiated jealousy. Nevertheless, some women want their man to be jealous. They feel that it is a sign of love if he is jealous and possessive, but I often wonder how that singular act of possessiveness can be interpreted as love. Imagine, when your lover becomes your stalker in the name of love. A man who wants to monitor your movement all the time is slightly more than in love. he is suffering from insecurity and this can transform into violence on the slightest suspicion that you are being admired by someone else. Guys, hear it now… It is not bad for your woman to be admired by other guys, it is only when your woman starts doing stuffs which is solely for both of you with the other guy that you can get jealous. Most times, excessive jealousy pushes your lover away. It makes your lover cringes with fear , distaste and  finally it makes them hate you. The jealous nature of a man can drive a woman into the loving arms of another man. Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying that you should not care for your woman, all I am saying is that you should give her some space, trust her and believe what she tells you. Give her the benefit of doubt and even when she does wrong forgive and accept her lovingly. Never condemn her as no one is perfect. Have you ever wondered why most women are married to one man as against ten men?  Well, I guess it never occurred to men that women do not like sharing their body unlike most men who sees nothing wrong in having a wife and a concubine. Men and women are wired differently, but never treat a woman like trash because you are jealous.

Cheers!

 

 

 

 

The Mystery behind relationships

Hi guys, it has been ages since I wrote and I feel very guilty about it, the words kept coming, the right topics kept  passing by but I could not squeeze out time to put my thoughts in paper. Although the idea kept on taunting me but as we all know no one has time except we create it. I was once told that no one knows what goes on between a man and a woman who are behind closed doors. I verily believe that  different relationships have different strategies which makes it grow into a success story.

Love is  the key that open perfect doors in our relationship, for love is like a plant that must be cared for, it must be protected and it must be fed, it must be provided with sunlight and water to blossom and grow into an ageless beauty. In all of my years on the face of this earth and in all my interactions with old couples one thing remain constant in finding the secret to a long and lasting relationship and that is determination. Most times, we wonder what a tall and handsome saw in a woman whom we perceive to be ugly. We wonder if a young and beautiful woman married an old rich man for his money and not for the mere fact that she finds happiness with him or that he makes her laugh. Now we keep on wondering and the relationship keeps on growing and that is the mystery behind relationships. It is a function of both parties and not a function of what third parties think. You know some people will never marry a person who has not been scrutinized and approved by friends as if it is their friends that will become their bed mates and companion.

Nevertheless, we are the only ones who know why we choose that fat and short lady or that old man  for no one truly knows why we choose the partners we ended up with, no one knows if it was just out of frustration and the fact that one has given up on true love or prince charming or the angelic beauty men imagined to spend the rest of their lives with. That woman who has the perfect shape, who is soft spoken, who does no wrong, who is a chef in the kitchen and who has mastery of the sexual skills which can make a man smile for days unend. A woman who never demands for gifts or material stuffs, a woman who never demands for your time but always lovingly and willingly accepts you when you come to her. Well, now that’s some fairy tale which I truly don’t know if it exists in the real world as challenges will always bring out the worse and the best in us, it will push us in relationships to do unspeakable things and to do the best things in life.   Same goes for women, are we getting into a relationship with anyone just because we can’t seem to find the right man or we have lost hope on our childhood dreams of meeting that special man who may not be necessarily good looking but who treats us right, who goes an extra mile to serve us as his princess or who cherishes us and practically worships the ground we walk on.

In all these cases, one should never give up on his or her dream of finding the “one” or getting that person that suits our taste, completes our dream and most importantly gives us joy in all areas of our life for that is truly the mystery behind good relationships for it matters not what the world thinks as longs as that is the woman or man for you, go ahead and be a couple.

Cheers!

Special text messages :The valentine festival

 

Have you ever wondered why  people have different  views on  the celebration of valentine’s day? Well, it’s all based on a number of factors but most of the notable ones are:  valentine is a pagan festival;  valentine is a roman tradition; valentine is meant for spouses; and mostly recently valentine’s day is a Christian festival  and the list goes on.  Nevertheless,  valentine has become one of the most popular celebrations in the world and we are falling short of turning that day into a worldwide public holiday. *wink* *wink*.   My reason for this outrageous suggestion or should i say observation  is not far-fetched and lies in the fact that cards are largely produced to celebrate valentine’s day and even events are specially organized for this great day of love. What is your thought on making February 14th a public holiday worldwide?

I guess every country who is engaged in one war or the other should seize fire on that day and share love*( I think that is a funny suggestion) but it could work. While we are pondering on the question of declaring the 14th of February every year a public holiday here are some lovely  text messages that we can send to our loved ones on February 14th.

Your are  unique
U are caring and
U are  the Best.And I am the  luckiest to have U in my life!
Happy Valentine’s Day my sweet heart!

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Even without Valentine’s Day, you’re my valentine. I don’t need a special day to celebrate your love in my life. But since today the world is celebrating anyway, I’m here to wish you a Happy Valentine’s Day.

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Here is my heart, it is yours so take it,
Treat it gently, please do not break it.
Its full of love thats good and true,
So please keep it always close to u.

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Love is missing someone whenever you’re apart, but somehow feeling warm inside because you’re close in heart. As we are, Happy Valentines Day sweetheart.

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All I want to do on Valentine’s Day is wrap my arms around you and stick to you like a koala! Let’s have a great Valentine’s Day this year.

 

As for me : I would simply say:

I appreciate you on this special day of love.

You are mine forever. Happy Val’s day.

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Love is that true feeling of spending all my  lifetime with you

and knowing that I truly lived. For when we are together I blossom with life and energy.

 

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Our love story began on Val’s day because from the moment I met you I

started my celebration of love every day. Happy Val’s day my sweets.

 

Cheers Fellas!