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Remember the song, Ladies Night by Kool and the Gang ? and the lyrics it’s a ladies night and the feeling’s right….

The lyrics played in my head tonight and I remembered my fellow ladies out there who are having a Friday night out. I could imagine them wearing those lovely evening dresses and what’s a dress without a smashing footwear?

Yes! High heels most preferably.  It has always been in vogue and will always be in vogue. It can be traced back in history to the 9th century. Elizabeth Semmelhack states that high heels was shown on a 9th century Persian bowl  and the earliest recorded instance of men and women wearing high heel shoes were  the Persian horse  riders.

High heels makes a lady look sleek, elegant, sexy, gorgeous and tall. Nonetheless, it has its disadvantages, the hidden costs of wearing that shoe for hours as we party the night away cannot be overemphasized.

Experts have again stated the dangers of wearing high heels for hours. Such dangers ranges from irreversible damage to leg tendon, hammer toes, the back and knee can also be affected from wearing high heels. The higher the heels the more the pressure is on the ball of the foot. The list is endless, there is ingrown toenails, the danger of falling and  sprained ankles etc.

And with every problem, there is a solution. So ladies fear not, you can still be trendy and fashionable but apply wisdom and caution in rocking that sexy heels of yours. First of all, if you wore heels to the office and you are out tonight, please wear flats “smiles” Ok. I was just joking. But on a serious note, do not wear heels for very long hours. Cut down on the number of hours you wear that heel. And if you cannot do that, wear comfortable heels, by that I mean do not wear very high heels. Averagely high works just fine. You will still look fine and sexy.

Finally massage your feet once you take that heels off.


Why relationships with our partners fall apart (Part 2)

Now men why did she suddenly lose interest in you? Why the sudden irritation? Maybe your ‘swag’ is not perfect or you are not just what you made yourself out to be, you are all form and no substance. You borrowed your friend’s car to ask her for a date and you conveniently forgot to mention it to her. You took her to your cousin’s house at Lekki in Lagos and she thought it was yours and you never bothered to correct that impression. Or you are not a neat person, your mouth stinks, your armpits can kill all the fish in the river, you don’t bother about shaving your beards and your English is mixed with ‘s’ in every statement or you simply don’t have a sense of responsibility or you cannot take the initiative even when she looks up to you or you have an over bearing attitude, always trying to lord it over her because you have an inferiority complex problem or you just have low self-esteem. You are afraid of change and would rather stay in one place. You are intimidated by her, so you deliberately stay quiet and pretend it’s alright. No! it is not, women love men that can lead, every woman looks up to her man and no woman (except a dirty one) likes a dirty man.
No woman likes a lazy man who cannot act like a man in every sense of the word. No woman would support a man who she does not believe in.
There it is guys! When she suddenly pulls off, it means you don’t have that swag to keep her or you do have the swag but you just don’t care about how you treat her or you are insensitive to her feelings or you are wealthy enough to hold her attention but have no idea on how to manage your time. Women love attention as much as they love your generosity. A lady who genuinely loves a man is constantly seeking to spend more time with the man. A man without a vision is of no good to a woman and she will eventually dump you when a better man comes her way. Thus, as a man when a woman looses interest it means you are lacking in certain areas. It means you lied about your material wealth and she is very pissed. She rather dates the cousin that owns the house than you the ‘poser’. Why not lay all your cards on the table. So, that she can come to appreciate you for who you are. You can strive to be a better man and put a wide smile on your woman’s face. Do you think they are other reasons why a woman can lose interest in her man?